Rights And Duties Of Husband Towards His Wife In Islam

TOPIC: Rights And Duties Of Husband Towards His Wife InIslam

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Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran:

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There are rights of the husband upon the wife just as there

are rights of the wife upon the husband, with kindness.

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The Holy Prophet says:

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The best amongst you are those who are kind towards their

wives. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol 2 Page 280)

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It is also in the Hadith:

"No believing man should harbor any hatred and ill feeling for

any believing women, for if any of hers actions seem bad,

then there are also those things in her which are good."

(Mishkaat Vol 2 page 280)

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This Hadith means, that if a wife has some shortcomings in

her, then it does mean that everything about her is not good.

She definitely has some good qualities as well. The husband

should thus praise her good qualities and try to rectify her

shortcomings.

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1. It is an obligation upon every husband, to provide for her

food, clothes, house and all other provisions. One must

always think that she is a servant of Allah in my Nikah, and

she has left her parents and everything else for me. She

should thus be properly taken care of.

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2. It is also necessary for the husband to fulfill his right as

the husband towards his wife, in the sense of satisfying her

womanly desires, so that she does not turn towards sin and

adultery.

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This Thus means that the husband should not stay away

from his wife for lengthy periods of time.

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3. A man should not separate his bed from his wife without

reason. Yes, if she acts contrary to his command or against

the Islamic law, then he may do so. This however, should not

be to cause her pain and torment, but to allow her to realise

her wrong doing. It is in the books of Law, that a husband

may warn his wife (punish her) by separating his bed etc.

if :

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(a). She refuses to dress neatly and beautify herself for him

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(b). Her husband desires her and she refuses without valid

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(c). She does not take Ghusl after intimacy or after her

menstrual periods etc.

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(d). She leaves Namaaz or any other fardh Ibaadat without

valid reason. .

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5. A man should never look at another woman with bad

intention and should never praise the beauty of other women

to his wife, and no wife should praise the beauty of another

man to her husband.

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6. The husband must correct the mistakes of his wife and if

she does not accept, then he may be strict.

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7. When going on a journey, the husband should inform his

wife, and meet her with great love and comfort her before he

leaves on a journey.

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8. When the wife cooks him a meal, he should not criticize

what she has made, but should eat it to please her. If there

is something that he does not like he should tell her with

great love and not mock or hurt her feelings.

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9. If she becomes ill, then it is necessary for him to care and

comfort her, so that she feels that he loves and cares for

her.

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10. He should have full faith and trust in his wife and she

should have the same faith and trust in him. Both should not

put false accusations on one another, as this leads to the

breakup of the marriage and is a sinful act. The husband

should also always be clean and dress well when with his

wife. He should not embarrass her or shout and threaten her

in the presence of others.

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11. The husband should not shout at and scold his wife for

petty issues and neither should the wife pick on him over

petty issues.

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12. If there is any dispute between the husband and the wife,

they should try to resolve this by themselves with

understanding, and if it is not resolved, then it should be put

before the elders for . A man should never be hasty in giving

Talaaq to his wife. He should let his anger subside before he

makes any irrational decisions and then think with a calm

mind. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said,

amongst those things which are Halaal, the one most disliked by Allah is Talaaq.

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(Abu Dawood Vol 1 page 303)

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13. If a person has more than one wife (not more than four),

then he must be just with all of them and care for them

equally. To take care of one and neglect the others is a sin.